Over the past decade or so, sugar daddy dating sites have exploded and people have become more accepting of open sugar relationships. However, despite the open sugar relationship, cheating in a relationship is still ugly and messy. Well, you betrayed your sugar baby, and now you two need to talk -- what could be worse? Don't worry, we'll back you up. Here's how to gently break the news to her and make the best of a bad situation.
No matter what she says, you should calm down
You know, when she knows that you cheated on her, she may be emotional and unable to accept. Cheating is an incredibly worrying thing, and people react to bad news in a variety of ways. She may cry, or yell at you, or panic, or rage. Anything is possible, but for sure, you need to stay calm and collected. (it also helps calm her down.) At the same time, don't let yourself appear upset or upset, you should be her backer. Tell her, "I know this is a terrible thing, and I'm sorry for the hurt. So, I'm going to spend some time dealing with this problem, because I want to work on it. "You need to be a comforting presence so that her anger and grief will die down a bit.
Give her some space and time to process her emotions
Put yourself in her shoes, and if you find out she's cheating on you, will it take you some time to digest? So, after you tell her the news, give her some space and time to deal with her emotions. Say something like, "if you want to think about it alone -- I see, I'll go and wait. If you want me to stay, I'll be here with you. I'll do what you feel most comfortable with." After all, she probably won't want to talk to you for a while, and she needs to be quiet, which is understandable! Don't insist on talking to her or explaining yourself when she feels uncomfortable. Follow her lead and remember: everyone is on their own time and on their own terms! Flowers and gift baskets don't erase everything you've done overnight. If you remain calm and respectful, things will go much better.
Don't expect immediate forgiveness, or even ask for it
You shouldn't expect forgiveness or forgiveness from your sugar baby. Instead, say, "I know this is inexcusable and I'm sorry." Instead of: "I'm sorry, please forgive me." For most of us, the thought of not being forgiven is unthinkable. But the truth is, no one owes us forgiveness -- and asking for it is often taken for granted. This may even make the other person angry. So, this should never come up in conversation. Forgiveness -- if it comes -- takes some time, and you shouldn't rush her! Don't say "do you think you can forgive me? This shows that you are not aware of the seriousness of the situation and can make it worse. You should let your sugar baby run the show, not you.
Don't rush to make excuses or go on the defensive
Don't make excuses for your mistakes; they only make things worse. Not so good -- "well, I don't think this would have happened if you'd been around more often. And I was really, really drunk... I don't want to make excuses, but I wasn't in my right mind... "In short, don't argue about what happened, but honestly admit that you were wrong. Don't give too many explanations or reasons for your cheating! Your sugar baby has every right to be angry with you, and you shouldn't minimize that. The urge to justify bad behavior is human, but it does more harm than good.
Instead, say something like, "I'm sorry I did this. I have only myself to blame, but I can try to explain what happened to me, if you wish." Cheating is complicated, and the best thing you can do is take full responsibility for your actions. Once she has calmed down and is willing to hear more, you are free to provide some background. But don't start the conversation with an excuse: it sounds like you're blaming her rather than yourself. After all, it's your fault for cheating on her.
Be sure to tell her before anyone else does
Don't let her know from other people that you cheated on her, this will cause more damage. Don't wait for her to find out you cheated on her. In fact, hearing it from office gossip or well-meaning busybodies hurts more than hearing it from your own partner. So, find the most convenient time to take her somewhere private (a bar or crowded restaurant is not a good place for this kind of conversation) and tell her gently and frankly what you've done wrong. There's no need to go into too much detail at this point -- it would be a huge blow to her, so you'd better keep the facts straight.
You can ask her to stay, but be prepared for her to leave you
When you cheat on your sugar baby, there's no reason to ask her to stay, so be prepared for her to leave you. Say something like: "I want you to know that our relationship is still very important to me and I know that my actions have jeopardized it. I would give anything to get it back, I promise, and I will fight to win back your trust. I want you to think about it, and then you can decide." If you want to maintain the sugar relationship, you have to make some promises: you have to promise to regain her trust. You have to be prepared for a period of doubt and uncertainty until she understands what she wants. You have to try to save the relationship.
But you shouldn't take it for granted that the relationship can be salvaged. Because for many sugar babies, cheating is a relationship breaker, and if you think cheating won't happen in this particular situation, it's insulting to others. If she says she's broken up, don't act shocked or surprised -- give her time and acknowledge that her feelings are legitimate. You must respect her final decision. In short, prepare for the worst - hopefully you'll find it's not that bad! Good luck!
As mentioned above, when you cheat you should be brave enough to admit it, if you don't want to make things worse. Honesty is the most important thing, the big deal is facing a breakup. It can also serve as a lesson to better prepare you for your next seek arrangement with sugar baby.