With the rapid development of Internet dating, if you think that only young people are looking for a date, you are wrong. Have you noticed more and more sugar daddy sites popping up? Why? The reason is that more and more people are seeking sugar arrangements. Meanwhile, a growing number of older sugar daddies are finding themselves single, either through divorce, the loss of a loved wife of many years, or looking for a bit of fun outside of marriage.
That means more older sugar daddies are looking for dates than ever, looking for a partner to fill a void in their lives. Because no matter how old you are, one thing in human nature never changes: no one likes to be alone. However, older people look for partners in very different ways than younger people. Once you enter the age of wisdom, your needs, desires and expectations will be very different from those you pursued in your 20s. So, here are 7 things you (probably) didn't know about older sugar daddy dating:
1. The real world matters
Elderly sugar daddies prefer to talk directly to potential dates on the phone rather than chatting online. So they are more likely to evaluate potential partners in the real world than online. Yes, they prefer talking on the phone to texting or emailing to see if they like each other.
Can you believe it? I know, all the young people are shaking their heads now, thinking: why would anyone want to call when you can send instant messages? Recent research shows that young people are three times more likely to like texting than talking on the phone, in stark contrast to older people. Of course, you won't be surprised to learn that most online dating services today are designed around chatting online with potential dates, not before things get serious enough to call.
2. Trust is very important
Yes, trust is very important at any stage, no matter how old you are. But for an older sugar daddy, trust has a special meaning. He may have heard stories of countless peers being used online and in real life. As a result, they often feel skeptical:
Are they really interested in me, or are they looking for more?
Is this the man of whom they speak?
Are they really looking for a partner, or are they just liars?
We understand the importance of trust to older sugar daddies because most online dating sites today don't have a trust mechanism. That's why we're currently developing features for our sugar daddy dating site MatchSugarDaddy to make sure that the people you meet are exactly who they say they are.
3. Not everyone is looking for love and marriage
Most dating services for young people are based on the premise that the ultimate goal is to find love and marriage. While this is true for some older singles, it's not true for older sugar daddies, as we all know that sugar dating isn't a serious date, it's rarely likely to lead to love and marriage, just for a bit of fun. Many elderly sugar daddies are just looking for short-term dates and nothing more. Some people are looking for someone to eat with, some are looking for someone to travel with, and some are looking for someone to share their favorite activities with.
Attraction, romance and flirting are always fun. For many older sugar daddies at this stage, that's enough. For others, more. Today's online sugar daddy dating services go far beyond dating to help people find temporary matches.
4. It's not wine, it's dinner
Drinking may be important for young people. But for most older sugar daddies, dinner plays an important role in their social (or non-social) lives. No one likes to spend years cooking and eating for themselves. When your married friends want to have dinner with you, you are always alone, which makes you feel a little bored. More than any other activity, dinner is the place where elderly sugar daddies feel the most lonely. That's why for most older sugar daddies, dinner dates are the most important step in finding a partner.
This is in sharp contrast to the many young people who organize their first dates, which often take place at a bar. For older sugar daddies, it's not wine, it's dinner. They prefer to dine with you on a first date.
5. Appearance doesn't matter
For young people, appearance is an important part of dating. Yes, in any dating site or app, photos are our first impressions and are very important. We'd be lying if we said that looks don't matter to older sugar daddies, but it turns out that looks do matter a lot less. Maybe it's because older sugar daddies are smart enough to know that looks have little to do with whether a person becomes a kind, loving and caring sugar baby. Maybe it's because the nature of physical attractiveness changes as you get older, and maybe they know that "sexy and beautiful" is more about your personality than your physical appearance.
Whatever the reason, most older sugar daddies will tell you that when it comes to finding a mate, looks don't matter.
6. Age is not that important
It's been a misconception for a long time that when people are looking for a mate, they only focus on one trait -- age. It's true. Most young people have such incredible prejudices about age that age is one of the most important screening criteria when looking for a partner on online dating sites.
Age is the second most important attribute on most sites, helping users determine if they are interested in a potential match (after the photo). The dating sites' filtering also highlights the importance of age in the minds of young job seekers, with all users being asked to specify the age range they are looking for, with many choosing a very narrow range.
However, it seems to me that more important is not your age, but your body shape, how healthy you are, what activities you can do and so on. Sugar daddies over 50 are much more flexible when it comes to making friends. Some of this may be wisdom that comes with age, but more important is a basic fact about how age works. Once you're in your 50s and beyond, your actual age becomes less and less important. It's more about your body shape, how healthy you are and what activities you can do.
If you are active and enjoy long walks and golf, you will be more interested in healthy and energetic people in their 60s who can be active with you rather than the 40-year-old who is waiting for surgery because he can't be active with you anymore. So age is secondary. How you treat their age is what really matters.
7. Filters aren't that important
One thing many dating sites and app services have in common is that they use fancy algorithms to help you find a partner, based on a dizzying array of filters you provide. Young people can be enthusiastic about the rules they impose on potential mates. However, we found that older sugar daddies were much more open-minded and less likely to care about a potential date's religious background, ethnic background, or age. They just care more about how they feel about each other and whether they're willing to negotiate the perfect sugar arrangement.
So what do you think? Do you agree? Or don't agree? Please tell us!